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Four Deadly Intimate-Communication Mistakes Identified by Psychologist

Why is it that you can be sailing along in a conversation with your spouse or lover and seemingly everything is going great, and then all of a sudden it seems like you hit a complete dead-end beyond which you cannot move… and like everything freezes in the relationship?

Psychologist and marriage counselor Dr. Max Vogt has suggested an answer. One or both of you has committed what he calls one of the “Four Deadliest Communication Mistakes.”

Dr. Vogt claims that any one of these four “communication mistakes” can stop intimacy dead in its tracks like a train wreck.

The “Four Mistakes” most often happen when people are trying to solve difficult or confusing parts of their relationship. Vogt says that the greatest opportunities for intimacy — and the greatest chance at blowing the intimacy — happen exactly at these moments. Which is why he suggests you need to understand when you are making those mistakes.

1. Explaining yourself. You try to explain your position, and dig yourself in the more you try.

2. What he calls the “You Too,” or turning the tables right back on your partner, showing them that they “are no angel either.”

3. Asking “well, what do you want me to do different?” Although this seems like a generous offer, Vogt says more often than not it’s just a way of “turning off the heat” from your partner and attempting to get them to become your “probation officer.” Not a good idea in intimacy, says Vogt! We agree.

4. “Going away.” By this, Vogt refers to both literally walking out with the attitude “I just can’t take this right now,” but also going away by spacing out, changing the topic or other (many other) creative tactics to turn down the heat.

Vogt claims that once a couple is in the “vicious cycle” of these deadly communication mistakes, it’s often very difficult to get out of it. So his recommendation is to recognize the power of them and avoid them as much as possible.

For more information on the Four Deadly Intimate-Communication Mistakes, including other videos and helpful suggestions about how to communicate better in intimate relationships, visit

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Momentum Christian Church’s Lead Minister, Dan Smith, Will Be Preaching A Relevant Sermon Series On Sex In Today’s Culture October 19th And 26th, 2008

Lead Minister, Dan Smith, at Momentum Christian Church, will be speaking for two weeks on sex, and practical insights from the Bible on this subject, which churches often find taboo. The sermon series, titled “Bringin’ Sexy Back” will run October 19th and 26th.

“It’s no secret that America is saturated with sexuality, but most churches are pretty silent about the issue,” says Smith. “However, the Bible has a lot of really practical insights for people who live in a culture like ours.”

This sermon series won’t feature some lame, naive preacher yelling at people about their past mistakes because — to some degree — everyone has messed up in this area. It will be a lot of relevant, heart-to-heart teaching that will help us better understand why God created such a powerful magic.

The church and its staff have rated the sermons PG-12, but they encourage parents to bring middle school and high school students.

Momentum Christian Church meets at the Cinemark Theatre in Valley View at 10am on Sunday mornings. The service is approximately 1 hour 15 minutes. Momentum designates itself as “a church for people who hate going to church.” They use rock music, funny videos, and relevant sermons to attract people who have previously thought church was boring and irrelevant.

Smith is a self-proclaimed “storyteller-preacher, comedy-writer, and lead minister of Momentum.” His comedy has been featured on CNN, VH-1, The New York Times, Glenn Beck, and Yahoo! In 2007, he was recognized by Cleveland Magazine as one of Cleveland’s “Most Interesting People.” Some say he’s mildly funny. His Mom thinks he’s very funny. At the very least, he cracks himself up.

Momentum is a non-denominational church located near Cleveland, OH. To learn more, please visit, or to schedule an interview with Dan Smith, please call Angie Dyer at 440-759-0663 or email

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